The dominant and submissive dynamic
The dominant and submissive dynamic is found in all relationships regardless if they are vanilla or kink relationships. There will always be a dominant partner and a submissive partner; this is the yin and yang of all relationships.
Two opposites are attracted to each other; a dominant role is created by a partner that wants to control the relationship or partner. The dominant is the primary caregiver and provider. The submissive role is created by a partner that wants decisions and choices made for them. The submissive wants or needs to be supported and taken care of in the dynamic or relationship.
In a healthy dominant and submissive relationship, both partners will discuss the needs and the options available; they will discuss what outcome would be beneficial. However, the dominant partner will make the decision and follow through with their decision.
These choices or goals could differ from various things; whether it be finances or stability, future plans or goals, it could also just be sexual in some instances. The dominant and submissive dynamic is what you make of it in the long run.
Power and sex will always have an interconnected role in a relationship. In BDSM, the dominant and submissive dynamic is mainly kink orientated. There is often a sexual aspect to it, but this is not always the case with this dynamic type.
BDSM dynamics partners are equal or have the usual dominant/submissive role in their household, however there will be a total power exchange in the bedroom. A boss in the real world, making tough decisions might want to have a more submissive role in the bedroom, being told what they can and cannot do. If the submissive disobeys the dominant, a suitable punishment will be issued.
It can either be impact play punishment or household chores. This is all dependant on what the dominant and submissive have agreed to beforehand. This dynamic creates stress relief for both partners; a partner with an incredibly stressful and demanding job in our fast-paced world will use the dynamic to decompress.
BDSM is often claimed to be a form of an abusive relationship; this is, for the most part, is furthest from the truth. Healthy BDSM relationships with dominant and submissive dynamics give both partners the ability to play out their desires while creating strong bonds that some vanilla relationships do not have. A huge factor in a BDSM relationship is trust, this is built up over time and creates a safe space where both partners are open, and understanding about each other’s sexual needs and desires without being judged, having a part that knows all of your darkest secrets can be very fulfilling in a relationship.
Power and sex will always have an interconnected role in a relationship. In BDSM, the dominant and submissive dynamic is mainly kink orientated. There is often a sexual aspect to it, but this is not always the case with this dynamic type.