#Terriblesafeword trending this week
#Terriblesafeword has been trending this week on Twitter, and I must admit I have laughed at many of the terrible safewords that some Twitter users posted.
Joking aside, if a safeword is used no matter how #terriblesafeword it is, it usually ends a scene/activity or slows it down drastically. Safewords are very important in a BDSM dynamic/relationship as all BDSM relationships are built on trust and consent. Your partner needs to know and trust that you will use the safe word if you need to
Safewords are not exclusive to BDSM couples and dynamics; I would recommend that all couples use safewords in their relationships. It helps build trust and open communication between both partners, and it will also help partners not in kink possibly discuss kink and maybe even start dabbling in a bit of kink. An adventurous romp in the sack is always worth exploring.
#Terriblesafeword is fun to joke about and laugh at, but it should be a crucial element to all kinds of relationships. The more open you are, the stronger you will be as a couple.
Safewords are there to ensure that both partners know that if at any point something goes too far, they can slow down the scene or stop. Safewords are typically something entirely out of the regular play vocabulary, like pineapple, unless, of course, you play with pineapples… It needs to be something that stands out so that when your partner hears it, they know to stop.
A recommended safeword strategy is the traffic light system, green being go on, orange being slow down or careful now, and red meaning stop. This is a beneficial system as often, when scene intensity increases, some people aren’t always able to put a sentence together, let alone say a word. You can also incorporate a tap-out system or the dropping of an item if you are unable to talk or your mouth is in use, so to say.
I know of several kinksters that use safewords even outside a scene if they are having an argument or disagreement. They will use their safeword as a timeout just to regroup or deal with something more pressing or urgent.
It is important to remember there is nothing wrong with using a safeword and if a safeword is used during a scene, I would recommend you discuss it during or after aftercare. This helps you bond as a couple and understand each other better.
#Terriblesafeword is fun to joke about and laugh at, but it should be a crucial element to all kinds of relationships. The more open you are, the stronger you will be as a couple.