Punishment or Funishment
Punishment or funishment is always an exciting topic for newbies and submissives, especially when starting their first dynamic, exploring and understanding the unknown as they start a new journey into BDSM.
When you start a new dynamic, whether it be with a new experienced partner or as a couple wanting to explore more and spice up your sex life, the first thing you do is negotiate. You negotiate your hard and soft limits, you agree on safewords, and set down rules for the dynamic. You also discuss punishments for broken rules and rewards for tasks completed; however, many submissives enjoy funishments as a reward.
Punishments are not meant to hurt your submissive but make them understand they broke a rule. Below are some punishment ideas:
- Depriving or forbidding a submissive, whether it be chocolate or orgasms. Take a favorite item away from them for a set amount of time.
- A submissive can write-out lines; the lines and wording will be decided by the Dominant.
- The submissive can stand in the “naughty” corner, holding a card against the wall with their nose or tongue, hands behind their backs for a set amount of time.
- Submissive wears a rubber band around their wrist/thigh or chest depending on the sizes you have. The dominant will let them know when to snap it periodically throughout the day.
- Impact play can also be a punishment, setting out a number of lashes with a flogger as a punishment.
Funishments can be used as a rewards system for bratty submissives that are usually well behaved but act out a little. Below are some funishment ideas:
- You can use washing pegs as nipple clamps or even take-out chopsticks that haven’t been broken apart; this is more sensory play.
- Place ice cubes inside your submissive, making them stand still until they have melted completely, make sure there are no sharp edges, and don’t use more than three.
- Either have your submissive dance naked or do a slow striptease for you.
- Have your submissive go to work without underwear and send you crotch shots during their breaks.
Never punish a submissive when you are angry or emotional. If a critical rule has been broken, step away from the dynamic and discuss it as equal partners. If you cant, get past the transgression, put the dynamic on hold while you fix your relationship.
Whether it be punishment or funishment, it is a bonding method for partners. You learn over time which boundaries you can push. It is all meant as light-hearted fun.
BDSM is part of a relationship, but it shouldn’t be an excuse to abuse or punish your partner.
Whether it be punishment or funishment, it is a bonding method for partners. You learn over time which boundaries you can push. It is all meant as light-hearted fun.