What is a Service Dom/me

What is a Service Dom/me

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A service Dom/me often seems to get a really bad wrap. They are often described as insecure as weak as they don’t take on the “dominant” role. They will take instructions from their bottom, often referred to as topping from the bottom. A Service Dom/me is also known as a Service Top.

A Pro Dom/me will also be called a Service Dom/me; however, the difference is they are being paid to Service you and listen to what you want or need from your session.

A Service Top isn’t insecure or weak, and they enjoy giving their submissive pleasure. They would instead make their submissives dream scenes come true rather than focus on their own kinks. They will take instruction from their submissive as to what the submissive wants, often allowing the submissive to dictate how the scene should play out. It is also a way to teach a partner that is new to BDSM and keen on taking a dominant role for their partner.

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A Service Dom/me gets pleasure from pleasuring their submissive. I have met several Service Dom/me over the years, and I know for a fact they can be dominant and very sadistic when they are in the right mindset. It does not mean that if they enjoy pleasuring their partners, they can’t become a hard Dom at the drop of a dime.

A Service Top likes to learn what turns their submissives on, which buttons to press to get different reactions from them. I once read a very apt response on Reddit as to what is considered a Service Top “My submissive is like a piano, she tells me what keys to press to get a reaction, but I, as the Service Top, ultimately decide on the melody I WANT TO PLAY.” This, to me, is the best way to describe a Service Dom/me.

No one person in BDSM is alike; BDSM is about exploring what works for you and your partner and enjoying scenes and experiences together. If a Service Top enjoys pleasuring their submissives, it doesn’t mean they are weak or insecure. They are learning what their partner likes and equally enjoy pleasuring their partner/ submissive.

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A service Dom/me often seems to get a really bad wrap. They are often described as insecure as weak as they don’t take on the “dominant” role. They will take instructions from their bottom, often referred to as topping from the bottom. A Service Dom/me is also known as a Service Top.

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