Meeting a new Dom/me in person
Meeting a new Dom/me can be exciting as fuck, but it is just as nerve-wracking as going on a first date or, even worse, a blind date. Many people started looking for online relationships or dynamics during the pandemic when they discovered kinky porn and realized they were kinky.
It is important to remember when meeting for the first time that you both will be equally as nervous regardless of who identifies as a Dom/me or submissive. We are all human before anything else, and this is important to remember, so always first try to connect on common interests. See if you have “normal” shared interests.
Even though we are all kinky in our own way, it does suck to be treated like a kink dispenser. There need to be common interests apart from kink so that you can build a proper bond and possible relationship down the line.
Somethings to always keep in mind when meeting a possible Dom/me:
You are meeting each other as there is already a possible connection, but it doesn’t always mean there will be a sexual or mutual attraction. So be open-minded and don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
Set a time slot for your meeting; the first meeting should be short and sweet. I always think the first meeting should be at a coffee shop for not more than an hour. You don’t want to drag it out too early on, and you are just meeting each other to see if there is an IRL connection.
Even though alcohol can help with nerves, it is never good to drink on the first meet. You could come across as a sloppy drunk or, even worse, give the wrong impression of yourself.
DO NOT submit and claim that you will submit to them; it is way too early even to consider this, and if they try to pressure you to submit, this is a major red flag. Pay for your beverage and leave. Submission is earned, not taken.
BDSM should not play a part in the first meet; it is too soon and way too risky. You don’t know each other well enough to negotiate limits and boundaries, let alone be in a scene together.
Meeting a Dom/me for the first time should only be considered an in real life introduction, do not let them pressure or coerce you into anything other than meeting one another in a public space. Unfortunately, not everyone is who they claim to be; many predators just want to take advantage of you and will say what they think you want to hear. Trust your gut and always make sure that someone is aware that you are meeting someone and where you will be meeting them.
Meeting a new Dom/me can be exciting as fuck, but it is just as nerve-wracking as going on a first date or, even worse, a blind date. Many people started looking for online relationships or dynamics during the pandemic when they discovered kinky porn and realized they were kinky.