Sub drop and how to recover from it

Sub drop is awful, and anyone that has experienced it knows what I’m talking about; you go from an intense high to such a low that you feel unworthy and broken. Now sub drop varies between people and how they deal with sub drop.

What is sub drop?

Sub drop is the aftereffect of a hormone and endorphin spike usually brought on by an intense scene, and it can either be experienced physically or emotionally. Sub drop is often more prevalent for submissives in a committed relationship with their Dom because of the intimacy shared in their relationship. Dom/me’s could also experience a drop after a scene, often called Dom drop or Top drop.

Typical physical sub drop symptoms are often similar to the common cold, like aches and pains, nausea, stiffness, chills, fatigue, and headaches. Emotional symptoms could include crying, depression, guilt, shame, anxiety, and being agitated.

The key to handling sub drop is knowing your symptoms; it isn’t always possible to predict whether or not you will have sub drop after a scene, but there are things you can do beforehand to prepare in case it comes.

Always have a high-protein meal or snack before the scene, and make sure to drink a lot of water so that you are hydrated. Yoga or stretching the day of the scene will also help calm you and loosen up your muscles. The most important thing, though, is to make sure you are in the right headspace. If your mood isn’t right or you feel down, rather postpone the scene; if you don’t, you will experience a lousy subdrop.

Now the most important after any scene is aftercare, but that is not a guarantee that you won’t have sub drop. You could have the best aftercare routine and still experience subdrop, so always make sure to have sweet and salty snacks nearby along with sugary drinks that can help spike your sugars levels.

If you can avoid making plans for the day after a scene, this way, if you do experience subdrop, you can self-care without feeling pressured to meet friends or do something you are not up for, instead take the time to decompress and ground yourself. Do things that relax you and that you enjoy.

Subdrop can be overwhelming and heartbreaking while you are in the thrust of it, but if you know your symptoms and can prepare yourself and have a sub drop kit prepared beforehand, it will be easier to manage.

Sub drop is awful, and anyone that has experienced it knows what I’m talking about; you go from an intense high to such a low that you feel unworthy and broken. Now sub drop varies between people and how they deal with sub drop.