Non-sexual submissive tasks that you can include in a BDSM dynamic

Submissive tasks don’t only need to be sexual; there are many ways you can include tasks and rules that are part of your everyday routine. In order to maintain a long-term power exchange, you need to think outside the box.

There are many service subs in the realm of BDSM; as acts of service can be seen as a form of submission, many Dom/me’s will include this in their tasks. Acts of service could be cooking, cleaning, catering to your Dom/me’s needs by feeding them and making sure they always have something to drink nearby. A Dom/me might request that certain tasks be done in a specific way or at a particular time. Acts of service will also include running errands or anything that will make your Dom/me’s life easier.

A Dom/me could even create tasks to help their submissive break bad habits, whether it be to eat healthy food only, stop smoking, or go to bed at a set time every night. A Dom/me will often help their submissive break these bad habits through praise and rewards.

The general use of tasks in a BDSM relationship or dynamic is ultimately about self-improvement. A Dom/me could set a task to learn a new language that might benefit your career or insist that you finish school or get a degree. Many Dom/me’s will put a rule in place that their submissive goes to therapy to either get over trauma or deal with mental or emotional issues they might have. Even though a Dom/me sets the tasks or rules, it is often to benefit their submissive to help them become the best version of themselves.

There are many ways to include rules and tasks in a dynamic that is non-sexual but still allows the Dom/me to have the power in the dynamic or relationship.

• You can restrict electronic usage like phones and tablets to only two hours a day and monitor it through an app.
• You can insist your submissive reads at least one book a week or month on a particular subject.
• You can restrict your submissive speech by allowing them to speak only when spoken to at agreed-upon days or times.
• You can set alarms for when they should go to bed and wake up, ensuring that they get their required sleep; a sleep app or fitness tracker can also monitor this.

It is essential to discuss this and negotiate beforehand, and you should also ask your submissive what they want to change or what type of self-improvement they want. This way, you can set tasks that will not only benefit the Dom/me but also make the submissive happy in their submission.

Submissive tasks don’t only need to be sexual; there are many ways you can include tasks and rules that are part of your everyday routine. In order to maintain a long-term power exchange, you need to think outside the box.