How to get kinky
Kinky is a term we have all heard and spoken about, many people realize they want to try kinky sex early on in adulthood, and others only discover it later in life, but we have all at one point thought of being a little kinky to spice up our sex lives.
What is kinky?
Kinky is what you want it to be, and it can vary from sensual play like adding a feather to your foreplay game or tying your partner up; it could include some spanking or edging. Kinky is spicing up your sex life so that you and your partner can be more adventurous together. Kinky does not have to involve hardcore sex toys and equipment, and it does not require pain. Kinky is a way to explore your desires and fantasies on your terms.
When you decide you want to get kinky, whether you are single or in a relationship, it is essential to determine what it is you want to explore. Make a list of all the things you want to try, what you are on the fence on and what is entirely off-limits for you.
This way, if you are in a relationship, you and your partner can agree on what you want to try together and what you aren’t willing to do together. If you are single, it is an excellent guide for your casual sexual experiences and, when you are ready, finding a partner that is sexually aligned with you. You need to know your limits and boundaries before you dip your toe in the kinky pool.
Research is just as important when you want to get kinky. Many kinky communities offer classes that you can attend to learn about your kinks; whether it be Shibari or flogging, there are many ways to learn about your desires and kinks. There are also many informative webinars you can attend if you don’t want to participate in actual classes in case you see someone you know.
Once you have decided on what you want to try or add to the bedroom, take it slow and start with one kink at a time. Don’t try to add all your kinky desires into one scene; not only will this add unnecessary pressure on you and your partner. It will likely end up in disappointment; your kinky experiences should be explored singularly in the beginning, and once you know what you like and how you want it, you can let your kinks intertwine into kinky scenes.
When trying new kinks, always be open-minded and never judge others on their kinks or desires; always have a safe word that you and your partner can use at any time. Kinky experiences should always be consensual, safe and if there are risks involved, it needs to be discussed before play.
Being kinky is about sexual exploration, forget the destination, and enjoy the journey.
Kinky is a term we have all heard and spoken about, many people realize they want to try kinky sex early on in adulthood, and others only discover it later in life, but we have all at one point thought of being a little kinky to spice up our sex lives.