Dirty talk Basics
Dirty talk is a great way to build your partner up into a horny deviant hanging onto your every word; talking dirty to a partner can be hot AF.
What is dirty talk?
Dirty talk is using sexually explicit language while talking to your partner. Words have a way of stimulating us mentally and also sexually, and dirty talk heightens sexual arousal before sex and even during sex.
There is more to dirty talk than just calling your sub “A good girl” or saying, “You have been a naughty boy.” Dirty talk is about understanding your partner’s mind along with their kink or fetishes and using it to turn them on. Humiliating a partner that has a praise kink will not have the same effect as worshipping them. You need to understand what turns them on and what is a hard NO when it comes to dirty talk.
Timing is also essential; if it is a new partner or you are in the early stages of your relationship, it might not have the desired effect as they don’t know you well enough, and it might turn them off and kill the mood. So be sure to discuss dirty talk first with them and make sure it is consensual.
Less is more when it comes to dirty talk; a few words or a sentence will often be enough to arouse them and intrigue them instead of reciting a bunch of awkward lines that come off cheesy. This will depend entirely on your partner and dynamic, and some people just need a glimpse into what is to come while others want to hear word for word.
When it comes to talking dirty to your partner so that they get aroused, it is just as important that it turns you on too; it is pointless promising to spank your partner if it isn’t something you enjoy doing. Avoid talking about kink or sexual activities that don’t tick your boxes too, talk about shared kinks and desires instead.
Dirty talk is foreplay where you start mindfucking your partner before you see them getting them hot for when you see them, so it is essential to mean what you say. Don’t promise them things and fail to deliver when you see them; if you call her “A dirty girl that needs a good spanking for having such a filthy mouth,” make sure to spank her when you see her. Don’t build up a scene and not deliver.
Dirty talk talks time and a little patience, you won’t get it right the first few times, but you will get better every time until your partner hangs on your every word quivering for what’s to come.
Dirty talk is a great way to build your partner up into a horny deviant hanging onto your every word; talking dirty to a partner can be hot AF.