Is it consensual if they are drunk or high?

Is it consensual if they are drunk or high, this is a highly debatable subject among many people that enjoy chem sex or sex with intoxicated people.

I have discussed this before; consent is always necessary. Even if it is with a partner, you are in a relationship with, regardless of how long you have been dating. You always need to ensure your partner wants to have sex and that they are of the right mind to consent to all types of play, it must be consensual, always!

There are many risks and dangers involved when it comes to chem sex or sex with an intoxicated person, especially if you have kinky sex or are in a BDSM dynamic or scene. Unfortunately, if a person is high or drunk, they tend to feel more adventurous and are often willing to do things that would typically be hard limits for them. So is it really consensual if they are drunk or high?

So not only are you pushing past a limit or boundary, but if you are aware that these are hard limits, and still go ahead. You know you don’t have consent even if your drunk or high partner agrees to the activity because you know they would not do this under normal circumstances. You are breaking the foundation of trust you have built up as partners.

Apart from consent, many other factors need to be considered when having sex with a drunk or high person.

• Will both of you be high or drunk?
• What if something goes wrong during your sexcapades?
• Will you be able to perform CPR or call an emergency number?
• How aware are you of your partner during your sexual activities or scenes?
• Will you notice if they lose consciousness?

It might seem extreme to ask these questions, but like everything in life. Shit happens, mistakes are made, and they can have dire consequences down the line. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. What could have been a fun night may end up with rape charges or being charged with your partner’s death.

Consent if a partner is drunk or high is something that needs to be appropriately discussed with a partner or playmate. If this is something you both want to engage in, you need to discuss what is allowed and what should be avoided, and you need to have a backup plan in place if something goes wrong.

Don’t incorporate breath play or water bondage into sexual activities if you are drunk or high; these are very dangerous sexual practices.

I have discussed this before; consent is always necessary. Even if it is with a partner, you are in a relationship with, regardless of how long you have been dating. You always need to ensure your partner wants to have sex and that they are of the right mind to consent to all types of play, it must be consensual, always!