The online world of fake Dom/me’s

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The online world of fake Dom/me’s

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Nothing pisses me off more than seeing the online world of fake Dom/me’s, and there is a reason they can only attempt that online. They possibly got all their tips, info, and “moves” from Fifty Shades of Grey or porn sites.

Fifty Shades of Grey, unfortunately, created a narrative for these “Dom/me’s.” You can spot them on most kink-related dating apps; sometimes, they just randomly message unsuspecting victims on forums, social media, or community groups. Commanding them to do something straight off the bat or calling them baby girl or kitten

The online world of fake Dom/me’s is vast, and they are everywhere. I started looking for them, and I must say I was shocked to see how many there actually were. A BDSM relationship is a unique relationship, and the depth of trust you will share with your partner will change your views on relationships in general.

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If you are new to BDSM and looking for a Dom/me, you will know when you find a good Dom/me. A good Dom/me will first get to know you as a person, and they will never call you a pet name from the beginning or demand you address them with a title. After getting to know each other, you will discuss safe words and boundaries.

They will ease you into BDSM; they won’t just force you into a scene or dynamic. There is no trust established, and they, as a Dom/me, need to gain your trust. Submitting to a Dom/me is a gift you as a submissive give them; you decide when you are ready and comfortable to submit. Trust needs to be earned, and you need to feel safe and secure in your relationship, regardless of whether it is based online or in real life.

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A Dom can not command someone to submit to them immediately. A bad Dom/me will ghost you once they have what they want, typically pictures and videos of you in graphic and compromising positions. They will try to call you are a bad or terrible sub for not submitting to them or sending them nudes. They just want to get off for the day, week, or month. There will be no commitment to you in the long run.

If you are looking for a Dom/me, pay attention and look out for red flags. If a Dom/me won’t share details about themself, they are probably married or in a relationship and looking for some fun on the side. You can’t trust someone who won’t share details about themselves with you, and you need to know who you are submitting to before a dynamic can start. Suppose they demand anything from you without this being discussed or agreed to, run. If they claim safewords aren’t necessary or that they don’t believe in them, run.

The online world of fake Dom/me’s often consists of abusers and predators posing as Dom/me’s. The most important thing you can do is take it slow. Get to know each other and trust your gut. If anything feels off or strange, discuss it. If they avoid specific issues or topics, the best is to end it and carry on looking for your Dom.

Don’t rush into a dynamic if you aren’t ready; take your time and enjoy the journey. You have a lifetime of BDSM ahead of you.

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Nothing pisses me off more than seeing the online world of fake Dom/me’s, and there is a reason they can only attempt that online. They possibly got all their tips, info, and “moves” from Fifty Shades of Grey or porn sites.

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