How to include kink in a vanilla relationship
Some people have kinks, add kink in a vanilla relationship, so you often just need a little extra. I have several kinks and have had vanilla relationships where I needed to spice things up just to tick a kink box once in a while.
There are many ways to spice up a boring sex life, okay, maybe not boring, but very vanilla type sex life. You can add kink in a vanilla relationship.
So I will give you a few ideas on how you can spice things up and hopefully add something to the bedroom that was missing. As with all sexual experiences or activities, first, make sure your partner is on board and willing to try something different; consent is always necessary no matter what.
- Fantasy role play, talk to your partner and see if they have any fantasies they would like to role-play; think of Rachel role-playing Princess Leia in Friends. Most people have at least one fantasy they would be willing to explore.
- Watch porn together; this is often considered a no-go area with a significant partner, but it could be an enjoyable night. Don’t watch hardcore porn your first time together; it might turn your partner off or creep them out. Look for softcore erotica to start off with, and you can build up from there.
- Dirty talk and sexting; this should spice things up instantly. Start sexting will your partner at work towards the end of the day; tell them all the dirty things you would like them to do to you. Maybe even send a naughty picture or video if you are brave enough; this will definitely set the mood for the night.
- Sensory deprivation; you can set the mood by lighting scented candles. Gently restrain your partner with a scarf or tie, of course not too tightly, as you don’t want a late-night ER visit or numb limps; this will kill the mood instantly. Restain them and blindfold them while you tease them with your hands and mouth.
- Incorporate sex toys; sex toys always have a way of cranking it up a notch. Have the vibrating sex toy set to a gentle vibration and try it out on another’s sensitive spots. While playing with the sex toy, edge each other; this will make for amazing orgasms later when foreplay is over.
- Different Sex positions; now, I am not saying go out and get a copy of the Kama Sutra but try different positions, maybe even incorporate some furniture into your sexual antics. Try cowgirl or reverse cowgirl on a chair instead of the bed. It will help with better penetration, and the sturdiness of the chair will offer support to your partner for more extended sex sessions.
You can add so many little things to your sex life that will take your bedroom from Dead Bedroom to Whoa Cowboy!
Talk to your partner and start exploring; there is no better time than the present. Sex is for pleasure; it shouldn’t be a chore. Add some kink into a vanilla relationship.
Some people have kinks, add kink in a vanilla relationship, so you often just need a little extra. I have several kinks and have had vanilla relationships where I needed to spice things up just to tick a kink box once in a while.