A BDSM contract is not binding or a legal contract.

A BDSM contract is not binding, and it’s not a legal contract regardless of what you have seen or been told. Fifty Shades of Grey got a lot wrong regarding BDSM, and I tend to think the contract was one of those things.

Yes, I recommend you have a checklist of things you are willing to do, along with hard limits, soft limits. It is essential to discuss what you have done and whether or not you enjoyed it and if you are willing to push your boundaries with certain activities.

You can negotiate power exchange and even a total power exchange dynamic, but this only works during a scene. Nobody has the right to control you completely. You are your own person, with a personality, feelings, and responsibilities.  The fantasy of not having to make any decisions and having some do it all for you is, unfortunately, just a fantasy; it is not practical in the real world and will never work.

You can negotiate power exchange and even a total power exchange dynamic, but this only works during a scene. Nobody has the right to control you completely. You are your own person, with a personality, feelings, and responsibilities.  The fantasy of not having to make any decisions and having some do it all for you is, unfortunately, just a fantasy; it is not practical in the real world and will never work.

If you are unhappy in your dynamic or relationship, you can end it and leave whenever you want. No one can force you to stay there no matter what they claim about the contract. BDSM can, unfortunately, be used as a smokescreen for abusers.

Remember, the foundation of BDSM is built on trust, and everything is SSC (safe, sane, and consensual). You can withdraw your consent at any time. If you want to leave a dynamic or relationship and fear that your partner might become abusive, call the police beforehand and request assistance.

A BDSM contract is not binding; you can be your own person and leave anytime you want to or stop the dynamic anytime you no longer feel comfortable or unsafe.

A BDSM contract is not binding, and it’s not a legal contract regardless of what you have seen or been told. Fifty Shades of Grey got a lot wrong regarding BDSM, and I tend to think the contract was one of those things.