Punching fetish

A punching fetish is often included in rough play and CNC scenes; punching in BDSM is either a hit or a miss. You either enjoy it, or you don’t. I don’t personally believe it is something you can learn to enjoy; it is either a kink you have had or a fantasy you are interested in. A punching fetish can form part of rough play or impact play.

Many people consider punching to be crossing a line during sex, and I have seen some videos where submissives were punched so hard in the head that I am convinced that it is abuse, and this is the thing with punching. I think at times, it is used under the guise of BDSM to abuse submissives or partners physically.

Punching, unlike slapping, can cause damage; you can really hurt a partner by punching them the wrong way or in the wrong place. You can cause severe bruising, tissue damage, and even possibly break bones or teeth.

If you have a punching fetish, you will need to find a partner that enjoys this as well because, as I have mentioned above, many people are firmly against it. So once you have found a partner who wants this kind of rough play, you can slowly incorporate it into play once you have established rules and boundaries.

As with all BDSM practices, you will need to discuss your punching fetish. It is crucial to discuss any previous injuries and all health issues you or your partner have that can affect how or where you punch each other. Establish no-go areas beforehand and make sure you have a proper safeword in place before you start practicing with your partner. Once you have discussed everything together and mutually consented, you can start practicing.

Firstly I would determine what areas of the body you will be punching, and most people limit it to certain areas only; however, this is entirely up to you. Some of the places where you can punch your partner are:

• Upper arms are common areas that will bruise easily are a few punches.
• Upper thighs, the outer thigh is less likely to bruise than the inner thigh.
• Buttocks are fleshly, so you can use slightly more force; buttocks do bruise easily with punches.
• Stomach or abdomen; however, a forewarning is essential so that the receiving partner can tense their stomach muscles to prevent any internal damage.
• Back punches can be included; however, concentrate higher towards the shoulders and shoulder blades.

Always avoid joints and organs; areas that should never be punched are the face, neck, and head. You can cause severe damage in these areas, and what was supposed to be fun play could lead to hospitalization or death, which will most likely include a jail term as well.

When taking part in a punching fetish, don’t use your full force/power to punch your partner. It is not a fight, just rough play, emphasis on play. When you punch them, don’t punch from a distance; between 5 and 8 inches is enough distance for rough play, and always use the flat side of your fist, don’t use your knuckles.

Both partners should enjoy a punching fetish, don’t coerce a partner into this as it will then be considered domestic abuse or assault.

If you have a punching fetish, you will need to find a partner that enjoys this as well because, as I have mentioned above, many people are firmly against it. So once you have found a partner who wants this kind of rough play, you can slowly incorporate it into play once you have established rules and boundaries.