Ready to be spanked?

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Ready to be spanked?

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There is a form of dominance and submission in spanking; even though you might not have a BDSM relationship per se, there are some BDSM elements involved. There is always a spanker and a spankee.

If you fantasize about being spanked, you might be happy to know that you are not alone in your kink; spanking is possibly one of the most common kinks in relationships.

Spanking is considered the first stepping stone into impact play; usually, spanking is done by hand. Once you and your partner realize it’s something you enjoy, you might start including other tools like floggers and riding-crops and maybe even a whip.

When you and your partner decide to add spanking to your bedroom dynamic, you will first need to discuss your limits and boundaries and agree on a safe word. Consent should always be enthusiastically agreed upon by both partners; never participate in any sexual activity that you don’t enjoy.

There are several ways to spank your partner; you can spank them OTK (over the knee), it is essential to make sure both partners are comfortable. The spanker needs to ensure that both their feet are flat on the ground without straining their calf muscles, the spankee should be able to rest comfortably over their partner’s knees without hurting their ribs or restricting their breathing; during spanking, the spankee will hold their breath in anticipation of the next spank.

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If you find OTK uncomfortable, you could spank your partner on the bed, which will be a more comfortable position if you are a novice. You could even use furniture in your house to use as a spanking bench; the spankee could bend over a kitchen countertop or kneel over a couch, always ensure that nothing can hurt or injure your partner during the spanking session if utilizing household furniture; as a spank will jolt your partner forward.

Start slowly, start warming up with softer spanks and increase intensity as the momentum builds; check in on your partner frequently during the session, ensuring that they are comfortable and enjoying the session. If it’s your first time spanking agree on how many spanks to start with; usually, 10 spanks is a good starting point. You can increase the number and intensity in future spanking sessions.

Aftercare is a must after a spanking session, always check in with your partner about what they enjoyed or disliked in the scene. A warm bath or shower, followed by applying lotion to the buttocks afterward, will assist with any burning or tingling sensations from the spanking.

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If you fantasize about being spanked, you might be happy to know that you are not alone in your kink; spanking is possibly one of the most common kinks in relationships.

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