What is Humiliation play?

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What is Humiliation play?

Humiliation, if done right, could lead to some seriously hot scenes with mind-blowing sex, but you can also cause severe psychological damage if you go too far.

Humiliation play isn’t something you just jump into; not only could you ruin a scene but also potentially destroy your relationship. There is a lot of negotiating of limits, hard and soft needed, and you must understand your partner’s boundaries. You need to understand what you can say and what you should never say. Humiliation play must always be consensual.

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What is humiliation play?

Humiliation play falls under the BDSM umbrella, but many non-kinky people also use it. Humiliation play means demeaning or degrading your partner with words. However, it is intended to arouse them, not insult them.

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Once you have decided this is something you want to include in play or even in your dynamic, you will first need to set some rules.

  • When do you want humiliation to be part of your scene? Is it the build-up pre-scene or during the scene? Do they or you need it to become aroused or climax?
  • What is allowed to be said? Does your partner want to be called a whore, slut, or bitch? Is it, for instance, more about a breeding kink? Are they your cum slut? You need to understand the why behind the humiliation kink.
  • Does your partner want you to criticize or judge their body? What body parts are in play? Your partner might enjoy you mocking their small breasts, but they may have complete no-go areas like her ass or thighs.

Once you have an idea of what is desired and what they don’t like, it is time to try it out. Start off slowly and check in with your partner afterward to make sure they are fine. The first few times, it might be a hit or a miss; this is how you will learn what works for you as a couple and not cross a line.

Words are powerful and could easily hurt your partner. A word can mean many things to different people, but ultimately it comes down to how you say it and when you say it.

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Humiliation play falls under the BDSM umbrella, but many non-kinky people also use it. Humiliation play means demeaning or degrading your partner with words. However, it is intended to arouse them, not insult them.

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