Dominance and submission is about the power exchange between both partners, there needs to be a partner that takes control and a partner that gives up control. It sounds easy, but it isn’t always easy, especially if you are in an online or long-distance relationship.
A BDSM dynamic or relationship protocol outlines the rules and behaviors allowed in a BDSM dynamic or relationship. Protocols will cover honorifics such as what and how you will address your Dom/me. Protocols will also entail where the submissive is allowed to sit or rooms they are allowed in, what position they should assume when their Dom/me enter a room or how they should pose. Protocols often form part of 24/7 D/s relationships.
Dacryphilia, also known as dacrylagnia, is a paraphilia in which a person becomes aroused from someone or themselves crying or sobbing. Now, this might be strange to some, but many people do include this in their scenes or dynamics.
Ball gags not only restrict talking, but they can restrict persons breathing as well, so always be in the same area as your submissive and make sure they are always in your line of sight, just in case they have an anxiety attack or struggle to breathe.
Negotiating a BDSM scene will help ease you into the dynamic. It will help with your nerves and make you more comfortable, but you will also be able to contribute to planning the scene and understanding what the scene will all entail.
Findom is financial domination; submissive men will send these women money or lavish gifts, often expecting nothing in return from these women. In our society, your self-worth is measured by money. So with submissive men that have a findom kink, this is the ultimate form of submission, giving your self-worth over to another.
We all think about kink at some point, and just about everyone has a kink, even if they claim to be the most vanilla person in the world. There are forms of D/s all around us in the world.
Dangerous submissives do exist. We often hear and read about fake Doms and dangerous Dom/me’s. How to spot them and avoid them, and which red flags to look out for during your search. Very seldom do you hear about bad or dangerous submissives.
It is also important to remember that you don’t have to be dominant all the time; this is exhausting and will have a negative impact on you mentally and physically, pick days or times when you are in Dom/me mode. As exciting as 24/7 seems, it is not always possible; we all have lives and responsibilities.
Positive reinforcement is a thing, and many people respond really well to it. I have noticed that more and more people are incorporating reward systems into their dynamic. So if you complete your daily tasks and don’t break any rules, you get rewarded instead of being punished if you break the rules.