Non-monogamy, is it something you truly want?
- by WiseHarsh
Non-monogamy is often associated with the kink world, and kinksters are open-minded individuals, with many being polyamorous and enjoying the lifestyle. It takes open and honest communication between partners to agree to a non-monogamy relationship and what they both understand it to mean in their relationship.
Being non-monogamous is an extensive term, and it can mean different things to different people. This is why it is crucial to be open and honest from the beginning if this is something you want in a relationship.
What is non-monogamy?
Non-monogamy is having sexual and emotional relationships with more than one partner. Some people may have a primary partner that they often live with and a secondary partner that they meet up with occasionally. It can range from one-night stands to multiple long-term relationships that your partner is either aware of or could be a “Don’t ask, don’t tell” agreement.
Many people like the idea of non-monogamy, but there is more to it than just having multiple partners simultaneously. It would help if you were emotionally prepared and ready to share your partner with others, as there is no place for jealousy in a non-monogamous relationship. It will just lead to hurt and anger; the relationship will ultimately end badly.
So how do you know if you are non-monogamous? You will need to do some soul searching and imagine what different type of relationship you want.
- Do you want multi-partners all committed to each other?
- One partner and the freedom to see and sleep with other people?
- One partner and participating at swingers’ events or having threesomes?
- Is this something you want, or is it just a fantasy?
Non-monogamy can be very complicated if you don’t know what you want. Once you decide what you want, you must be honest with your partner. Many people will agree to an open relationship to either save their relationship or make a partner happy. There might be a few cases where this has worked out for the couple, but more often than not, it will be the demise of your relationship.
I have seen many submissives enter into this type of relationship to make their Dom happy, only for it to end badly; we all have boundaries regardless of whether we are vanilla or kinky. Often in BDSM dynamics, the Dom will claim to be non-monogamous just so that they can “cheat” with permission, and when feelings get hurt, they will blame it on you and claim that you are a shitty sub that agreed to it from the beginning.
Know yourself and your limits, do not agree to anything you know is a limit for you; it will only end in hurt and anger. Non-monogamy does work in many relationships, but it is always consensual and beneficial to both partners.
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