A BDSM dynamic or relationship protocol outlines the rules and behaviors allowed in a BDSM dynamic or relationship. Protocols will cover honorifics such as what and how you will address your Dom/me. Protocols will also entail where the submissive is allowed to sit or rooms they are allowed in, what position they should assume when their Dom/me enter a room or how they should pose. Protocols often form part of 24/7 D/s relationships.

Anal some love it, others hate it, and many have never tried it, but one thing is for sure more heterosexual couples are trying back door sex these days. While many will claim it is popular because of the taboo factor, there is more to it.

A safeword is a word agreed upon by both partners that will stop or slow down play during a scene. Typically you will choose a word that would stand out during the scene; during a play session, sometimes stop doesn’t mean stop, so it’s better to choose a safe word like pineapple or Beetlejuice, for instance.

Squirting, also called female ejaculation, is the squirting or gushing of odorless fluid from the urethra before or during an orgasm, usually through clitoral or G-spot stimulation. Some believe that because there are traces of urine, it “must” be urine others claim it’s a fluid that comes from the Skene’s gland, also known as the female prostate.

So why do masochists love pain? Often masochists will just say they love the feeling or the intensity involved, and it’s just something they enjoy. It is all very accurate, but what ultimately lures them into their masochist kinks is the chemical reaction in the body they experience during a session.

If you are kinkier, heating and cooling lube create different sensations during your sexual activities. You can even buy flavored lubes, but they can leave a gnarly aftertaste in your mouth, and because they are flavored, there are often sugar and additives in the lube that can lead to yeast infections in women.

So now that you have purchased your cock ring, it’s time to try them out. Always use lube when putting cock rings on; like everything, sex-related lube is your best friend! Lube helps to get it on and take it off quickly if necessary. I prefer water-based lubes when it comes to any sex toys.

Sounding is actually a medical procedure used the unblock, probe, or clear the urethra. In medical play, it is used as a form of dominance and submission, and those that participate in sounding say it creates a heightened sense of sensation and pleasure. How do you sound? Usually, a stainless steel rod is inserted into the urethra of a penis towards the bladder.

If you want to include kink in public, always discuss it with your partner and make sure you both understand the rules and tasks. It would be best to plan it out beforehand; it would be pointless to include sex toys if they aren’t charged before.

Self-care is something we all have to do when adulting. Making decisions in life and deciding what our goals are and how to achieve them forms part of self-care as an adult, and with mental health has become more prevalent over the last few years, you realize that some people need more support than others.