How to Unleash your inner Domme

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How to Unleash your inner Domme

A Domme is often portrayed as a strong, outspoken woman dressed to the T in leather with at least two male submissives on leashes ready to please their Domme. This is your stereotypical idea of what a Domme is, and yes, at times, they might play that fantasy out for you, but most Domme’s could be a teacher or a CEO, or even that friendly waitress at the coffee shop down the street.

What is a Domme?

A Domme is a woman who takes on the Dominant role in a relationship and controls their submissive partner. This is consensual and forms part of a D/s relationship. A Domme might enjoy humiliating their partner and including impact play like flogging or spanking in the relationship. However, like all BDSM relationships, this depends on what the Domme and sub have agreed upon beforehand.

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Any woman can be a Domme in a D/s relationship, and many might feel they are too shy or could never order their partner around, but there is an inner Domme inside of you.

Many Domme’s were submissive first as they enjoyed the idea of D/s but didn’t think they had “it’ to be a Domme which is actually a great way to find your inner Domme. Firstly this helps you understand what submission truly means, and it also gives you a peek into the world of Dom/me’s as you get to learn firsthand how Domination works.

Once you have tried being a sub, you can then amp it up by being a switch and having your Dom/me guide you during scenes to help build up your confidence and teach you different methods you can use as a Domme.

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Another way to build up your confidence is to be more assertive in everyday activities; instead of shying away from confrontation, start standing your ground and speak up for yourself. It might seem unnecessary or pointless, but the more commanding you become in these situations, the easier it will be to use it in your D/s relationship or bedroom activities.

You don’t have to be a stereotypical Domme; if you prefer psychological control over forms of humiliation or impact play, there is no size fits all, and no relationship is the same. If your partner is submissive and wants you to be their Domme, negotiate and agree on what you both want out of your relationship and check in often with each other till you find the golden line that works for both of you.

You won’t find your inner Domme overnight, but you will quickly find the confidence to create your Domme persona with knowledge and practice.

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Any woman can be a Domme in a D/s relationship, and many might feel they are too shy or could never order their partner around, but there is an inner Domme inside of you.

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