Technology in a Dominance and submission dynamic

Dominance and submission is about the power exchange between both partners, there needs to be a partner that takes control and a partner that gives up control. It sounds easy, but it isn’t always easy, especially if you are in an online or long-distance relationship.

What are protocols in BDSM?

A BDSM dynamic or relationship protocol outlines the rules and behaviors allowed in a BDSM dynamic or relationship. Protocols will cover honorifics such as what and how you will address your Dom/me. Protocols will also entail where the submissive is allowed to sit or rooms they are allowed in, what position they should assume when their Dom/me enter a room or how they should pose. Protocols often form part of 24/7 D/s relationships.

The crying game

Dacryphilia, also known as dacrylagnia, is a paraphilia in which a person becomes aroused from someone or themselves crying or sobbing. Now, this might be strange to some, but many people do include this in their scenes or dynamics.

Ball gags, Why so quiet?

Ball gags not only restrict talking, but they can restrict persons breathing as well, so always be in the same area as your submissive and make sure they are always in your line of sight, just in case they have an anxiety attack or struggle to breathe.

How to negotiate a BDSM scene

Negotiating a BDSM scene will help ease you into the dynamic. It will help with your nerves and make you more comfortable, but you will also be able to contribute to planning the scene and understanding what the scene will all entail.

Fake findoms will ruin submissive men

Findom is financial domination; submissive men will send these women money or lavish gifts, often expecting nothing in return from these women. In our society, your self-worth is measured by money. So with submissive men that have a findom kink, this is the ultimate form of submission, giving your self-worth over to another.

Dangerous submissives

Dangerous submissives do exist. We often hear and read about fake Doms and dangerous Dom/me’s. How to spot them and avoid them, and which red flags to look out for during your search. Very seldom do you hear about bad or dangerous submissives.

How to become Dominant

It is also important to remember that you don’t have to be dominant all the time; this is exhausting and will have a negative impact on you mentally and physically, pick days or times when you are in Dom/me mode. As exciting as 24/7 seems, it is not always possible; we all have lives and responsibilities.

Reward system in BDSM, when punishments don’t work

Positive reinforcement is a thing, and many people respond really well to it. I have noticed that more and more people are incorporating reward systems into their dynamic. So if you complete your daily tasks and don’t break any rules, you get rewarded instead of being punished if you break the rules.

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