Rough play and The art of slapping
Many people enjoy a bit of rough play in the bedroom; rough play can take many forms in the bedroom, slapping is the easiest way to get into the rough play mindset.
What is Rough Play?
Rough play involves several kinks like punching, kicking, and slapping. Rough play is often used in CNC scenes and even primal play. You are essentially fighting off your “attacker” or fighting for your life in the scene.
Slapping is not necessarily for everyone, and it is often a hard limit for many submissives. Some forms of rough play can easily be compared to domestic abuse, and therefore a hard limit. Many submissives have fallen prey to abusive Dom/me’s and partners, which is why rough play usually is a hard limit. Slapping can be used as a coping mechanism for previous abuse experienced, and it can therefore become sexualized as opposed to abuse previously experienced.
Rough play, like all other BDSM practices, is something that needs to be discussed and agreed to by both partners.
Rough play should be practiced before you use it in a scene. The practice in itself can be just as much fun. Rough play is often used as a way to dominate your submissive and exert power over them in a power exchange dynamic; slapping is also a form of humiliation or punishment if your submissive is a masochist.
As with all impact play, slapping should be practiced beforehand to understand your partner’s limits; the idea of slapping is all about the shock factor.
- When slapping your partner, make sure you have no jewelry on, as this could hurt or wound your partner.
- Don’t slap close to piercings or your partner’s nose, as this could cause a nose bleed depending on the force used.
- Slapping close to the eyes can stun your partner or cause a black eye.
- Slapping someone too close to their ear could burst an eardrum.
It is important to remember that rough play is only PLAY; you can use your safeword any time it goes too far.
The best place to slap a person is above the jawline and below the cheekbone; the slap should land with your fingers, not your palm. Slapping is an art, and it takes patience and practice to know how and where to slap your partner.
Start slow and gentle as with all impact play; when slapping initially, don’t stand too far away from your partner as more force is used if there is distance between you.
Slapping can be used as punishment or funishment. Depending on your dynamic and what you and your partner have agreed to, and whether you are sadomasochists. Slapping can be included in many scenes, like a primal/prey scene or CNC. Slapping is popular in CNC fantasy scenes where the submissive is fighting off their dominant “attacker.”
Always make sure your partner has enthusiastically consented to rough play and make sure they understand what it all entails beforehand.
Rough play involves several kinks like punching, kicking, and slapping. Rough play is often used in CNC scenes and even primal play. You are essentially fighting off your “attacker” or fighting for your life in the scene.