Talk dirty to me

Talk Dirty

Talk dirty to me

Talk dirty to me is a phrase we have all heard at least once, and bloody hell, it can be so awkward initially, especially if it’s a new dynamic or relationship.

Dirty talk is something that needs to be discussed in depth before you use it in the bedroom; before you say something in the heat of the moment that sounds sexy AF in your head but just sounds wrong when you say it out loud to your partner in the bedroom, and it kills the mood right there.

Dirty talk should be discussed with kinks at the beginning of a relationship, it’s not always easy, but if you get it out the way, in the beginning, it makes it easier to talk about later and incorporate into your sexual activities. People dirty talk for different reasons, and whether you want to be slut-shamed or just spice up a naughty night, all is fair in love and war as long as you know what you can say and your partner has consented.

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When you sit down and discuss the dirty talk element with your partner, understand what they like and don’t like when it comes to dirty talk. Don’t just blurt words out during sex, some women love being called a slut but call her a whore, and she will go full feral on your ass.

When you talk dirty to your partner, you want to turn them on, not off. The last thing you want to do is hurt their feelings and have them think this is what you actually think of them. Talking dirty is sexy, but words can leave scars.

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Talking dirty doesn’t just have to be used in the bedroom only; it can spice up a night out. Where you tell each other what you would like to do to each other right there, you can use dirty talk over messages as a build-up towards later the evening. Nothing is more exciting than having your partner whisper a promise to bend you over the kitchen counter the minute you get home from this work function.

It is essential to know what your partner likes and what will turn them on, don’t try to go off a script as it will just kill the mood if you miss a line.

Once you have realized what works for your partner and you, you can start taking it further with a bit of humiliation or orgasm denial when you talk dirty to them. It can even be used in body writing, and dirty talk can be whatever you and your partner want it to be. There are no set rules as to what can and can’t be said, as long as it works for both of you.

It will open up a different kind of play that will lead to dirtier and sexier experiences in and out of the bedroom. Dirty talk is often used in BDSM scenes; however, many vanilla relationships also use dirty talk. It depends on your partner and what turns both of you on at the end of the day.

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When you talk dirty to your partner, you want to turn them on, not off. The last thing you want to do is hurt their feelings and have them think this is what you actually think of them. Talking dirty is sexy, but words can leave scars.

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