Trust, the core of BDSM
Trust, the core of BDSM and all aspects of it, and without trust, you are basically engaging in dangerous sexual activities. Would you let just anybody spank you, tie you up or degrade you? No, nobody in their right mind would participate in that.
Trust is essential in any relationship in life; you trust your friends and family members to help you, protect you and guide you. When you trust someone, you let your guard down, and they get to know the real you without any of your walls up.
Trust can not be given as it needs to be earned by you and your partner. It takes time and communication for trust to be built and earned. When starting a BDSM relationship, it is always necessary that you discuss everything with your new partner. It would help to discuss your kinks and fetishes and any fantasies or desires you have or would like to explore over time.
It would be best to discuss your hard limits and soft limits with your partner to understand what you want out of your relationship. You nor your partner can be judgemental in any of these discussions. It would help if you kept communication open; as your relationship grows, you know that you can discuss anything with your partner.
Most BDSM dynamics have a power exchange, and this is normal in these kinds of relationships. To give your power up or have it taken from you, you need to trust your partner explicitly. You need to know that they won’t push past your boundaries or do anything non-consensual to you while participating in a scene or activity. Communicating what you liked or disliked in a scene is part of the dynamic, and if you don’t trust your partner completely, you will likely not share these things with them and risk your health and safety.
Trust is being vulnerable in front of your partner and knowing that they respect you, your boundaries, and safewords. Trust is the core of BDSM but is essential in relationships outside the bedroom or dungeon. You need to have complete trust in your partner, and it is one of the most crucial building blocks of your relationship and dynamic.
If trust has been broken in your relationship, step away from the dynamic until you can rebuild the trust you have in your partner. Participating in a dynamic where there is little or no trust is dangerous. You might get hurt or have long-lasting trauma after the scene.
When starting a new relationship or dynamic, start off slowly and build up the trust you need to open up to your partner completely. If at any point you see red flags, withdraw consent, discuss it with your partner, and if you can’t find a solution, it might be best to walk away. Always trust your gut above everything.
BDSM can change you as a person as you live out your wildest fantasy; trust is the core of BDSM and needs to be earned to experience BDSM with a partner truly trust.
Trust, the core of BDSM and all aspects of it, and without trust, you are basically engaging in dangerous sexual activities. Would you let just anybody spank you, tie you up or degrade you? No, nobody in their right mind would participate in that.