BDSM – Popular Dominant definitions.
In every relationship, there is a dominant and a submissive role, regardless if it is a normal relationship or purely a sexual agreement/arrangement. You can break it down; however, you want, but the dominant always steer the relationship. When looking for a relationship, you will seek either a dominant or submissive partner.
It is a concept of dualism, how seemingly opposite or contrary personalities may be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent to each other, and how they give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another. These are the foundations to building a mutually beneficial BDSM relationship, understanding your role in the relationship, and playing your part. This is also vital in establishing any relationship.
The dominant role comes in all shapes and forms, the general dominant terms are listed below, and I am sure that I will come across many more as I continue my journey into the world of BDSM, and I will add them as I come across them.
- Daddy – A person who is nurturing and paternal in a relationship, you will also refer to this person as Daddy in age play activities.
- Disciplinarian – A person who believes in and practices firm discipline.
- Dominant/Domme/Dominatrix – A person who consensually takes power, authority, or control of a relationship. This person often embraces authoritarian aspect, and that comes across in real life too.
- Handler – A person with a dominant-role in a pet-furry play dynamic.
- Master – A person who consensually takes power and control in a scene or activity, they are addressed as Master.
- Mistress – A person who consensually takes power and control in a scene or activity, they are addressed as Mistress.
- Mommy – A person who is nurturing and/or maternal in a relationship, you will refer to this person as Mommy in age play activities.
- Primal Predator – This is an animalistic person who enjoys hunting and attempting to capture prey while animal behaviour is at the centre of the activity.
- Rigger / Rope Top – A person who practices the art of rope bondage and is in control of the scene.
- Sadist – A person who consensually takes power and control; they enjoy inflicting humiliation or pain on someone, it can be emotionally, mentally, or physically inflicted.
- Top – A person who is consensually in control during kinky activities even if they are at the bottom for certain activities they are still in control.
I have come across many people who are shocked by the mere mention of BDSM. It is thought of as a taboo subject and should not be discussed. I however find it to be an embracing community regardless of who you are or what your kink is; everyone is welcome. Once you become part of the BDSM community, you will realize how open and honest people can be, about who they are, which is exceedingly rare in our world where everyone puts up a facade. The BDSM community is often very helpful in assisting newcomers in discovering who they are and how to navigate their new kink.
The dominant role comes in all shapes and forms, the general dominant terms are listed below, and I am sure that I will come across many more as I continue my journey into the world of BDSM, and I will add them as I come across them.