Spreader Bar
A spreader bar is one of the most popular BDSM accessories for kinksters; it has several uses and can be used in various positions.
What is a spreader bar?
As the term seemingly defines itself, it’s a bar used to spread limbs. It is usually a metal or wooden bar with either cuffs or attachment links so that you can restrain a partner by their arms, wrists, ankles, or knees. The spreader bar is often used in BDSM bondage scenes; however, the possibilities are endless with a modular spreader bar that has several tie points.
The spreader bar assists with complete submission of a partner and helps a Dom/me maintain dominance during a scene.
As much fun as you can have with a spreader bar, it is essential to keep your partner’s safety in mind at all times. You must be able to release your partner quickly and efficiently when using a spreader bar as your partner might have difficulty breathing, severe cramps, or have a panic attack. So it’s crucial to understand your spreader bar and how it works. Most spreader bars have links that can easily detach as long as your partner isn’t being suspended with the spreader bar.
Apart from safety, it is of utmost importance to discuss limits and boundaries, and you must ALWAYS have a safeword when playing. If you are using other accessories like ball gags, make sure your partner has a squeaky toy or something noisy like keys that they can drop to let you know if you need to slow down or stop. It is always important to check in with your partner during play to ensure they are still enjoying the scene and don’t need to readjust or take a break.
If you use the spreader bar for activities outside of play, you will need to consider other risks. If your partner’s arms are restained in a spreader bar, what activities are they willing to perform, and in which areas of your home. If your partner is to fall while being tied to a spreader bar, not only can they not protect themselves from the fall but are more likely to hurt themselves or, worse, break or sprain a limb.
There are many ways you can incorporate different accessories with the spreader bar. There are several types of collars with attachments available to connect a collar to the spreader bar. You can also tie your partner’s ankles and wrists on the same bar using standing or kneeling positions for a scene.
If you are new to spreader bars, start off with easy positions for a set duration of time, this will assist the person in the spreader bar by getting used to the feeling of the spreader bar and the limitations involved with a spreader bar. The spreader bar will put your partner in a submissive space, and they will feel very vulnerable in certain positions.
Aftercare is a must. This way, you can massage their limbs after they were tied up, increasing blood flow and any soreness from the spreader bar.
A spreader bar is one of the most popular BDSM accessories for kinksters; it has several uses and can be used in various positions.