Aftercare, the most important element to every sexual encounter
- by WiseHarsh
Aftercare is primarily discussed and included in BDSM dynamics or relationships; in essence, it is how you end the scene. Aftercare should be an intentional act after any sexual encounter; regardless if it’s a one-night stand or just some plain vanilla sex, it should be part of all relationships.
What is aftercare? Usually, in BDSM scenes, you have intense physical and emotionally draining scenes that can play havoc with your emotions after huge surges of endorphins during the scene; partners might experience subdrop or even Dom drop after a scene. Aftercare helps ground partners and makes them feel safe and cared for afterward.
There are many ways that you can include aftercare in your sexual experiences.
Communication is always essential in any relationship, but it is also an excellent aftercare activity. You can discuss what you liked and disliked, even what you want to try next time if you think there will be a next time. You can also tell your partner how well they did and reaffirm their importance to you.
Intimacy that isn’t sexual is another excellent aftercare technique; some people like to cuddle and decompress after sex, while other people might shower together and then sit on the couch together while watching a series. Find a way to do something together that isn’t sexual.
It would be best if you always had some water and snacks available for your aftercare routine, not only to help get those strength and sugar levels up again, but it’s a great way to show someone that they are more than just a fuck. Whether you are making food together or just eating chips and ice cream together. It shows their well-being is important to you.
Check-in on your sexual partner later in the day or the next day; you can reminisce about your romp or just let them know how much you enjoyed it and that you are thinking of them. Even one-night stands can be cordial the next day by just saying, “Hey, was awesome meeting you.” Not every one-night stand needs to end in the walk of shame or thinking the person you hocked up with is a douche.
Aftercare can be anything that works for you and your partner, but communication is the most important thing to always have in aftercare. It will make you a better person and a better lover down the line.
Usually, in BDSM scenes, you have intense physical and emotionally draining scenes that can play havoc with your emotions after huge surges of endorphins during the scene; partners might experience subdrop or even Dom drop after a scene. Aftercare helps ground partners and makes them feel safe and cared for afterward.