Kink snobs

Kink snobs

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There are, unfortunately, kink snobs in all the kink communities. On BDSM forums and community pages, you will often see how they recommend newbies should become part of the community and go to their local munches, which I still believe is the better way to meet new people into kink.

There will, however, be a type of hierarchy, and this unfortunately always seen in elite club-type situations. Where certain individuals feel they are better than others cause they have been in the BDSM lifestyle longer or because their kinks are so much better than your kinks and all that kind of bullshit. Unfortunately, in all life situations, you always get these cliques. You can either bow down to their “authority” or just carry on exploring your kinks and the community.

Some kink snobs will even claim that you aren’t a true submissive or a natural Dom; this is just a way to get under your skin as they try to show off their elitism. Luckily not everyone in the community is like this, and you will meet some awesome kinky people.

There is no BDSM handbook or let alone a BDSM council, even though many of the elite think they should create one and be the ring leader. LOL, BDSM is what you make of it. It can be 24/7 or once in a blue moon when you want your ass spanked. Kink snobs will often claim that it’s an all-or-nothing situation, which is furthest from the truth. It is your relationship, your dynamic, and your choice.

Unfortunately, I know of many people who were taken advantage of when they decided to explore the kink world. There were coerced into believing certain principles were necessary when engaging in kink. The more extreme kinks you are willing to divulge in, the more accepted you would become in the community. This is abusive and predatory; never participate in kinks you aren’t interested in or want to explore.

All BDSM activities need to be consensual, don’t feel compelled or pressured into participating in kinks or scenes if you are at a club or dungeon. You set the rules and decide at what pace you are comfortable. If you feel uncomfortable at a club or dungeon, that someone is pushy or overly touchy with you, you can ask them to leave you alone as you are not interested. If they disregard what you said, walk away from them.

Don’t ever let someone push you into something you don’t want to do. The majority of the kink community won’t kink shame you regardless of what kinks you have or how experienced you are.  Don’t let kink snobs dampen your experience in the new community.

Some kink snobs will even claim that you aren’t a true submissive or a natural Dom; this is just a way to get under your skin as they try to show off their elitism. Luckily not everyone in the community is like this, and you will meet some awesome kinky people.

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